26 şubat 2002

pano:

7'nin ingilizce versiyonunu merak eden vardır belki. okuma malzemesinde.

bu hafta da ingiliz salatası var.

şefin salatası:

only whole-heartedness

most people think they have to deserve what they do not presently have, in order to get it; rare is the person who knows she has to deserve what she already has or what is, in her perception at least, available.

things, people, experiences ostensibly wait just within her reach – she takes her time, assured by the conviction that expressing her desire at any point in time will be sufficient to create a flood of satisfaction flowing toward her.

things, people, experiences not only have a mind, however, but also a heart of their own – they can be most fragile when least expected. to take for granted what is being offered, to rekuctantly condescend to what thinks of itself as precious, or to be ambivalent with respect to the enthusiasm about offering, is the surest way to encourage its shrivelling up and hiding away.

it is, on the other hand, a quite widespread phenomenon that someone should think of himself as precious, as an individual that others should consider themselves lucky to be with. this, of course, is a perceptional rather than a material matter. when faced with anything less than unconditional enthusiasm, he experiences hurt, but this is only another form of, or excuse for, his own lack of total enthusiasm.

“make me live!” – the cry of the day. is it decades of tv-entertainment that has finally brought on this curse of passivity in today’s relationships?

bear with me while i digress. there is another dimension to this passivity. gratuitious meanness is everywhere. in people without character, it’s passive vindictiveness. they are too lazy and unmotivated to be evil actively, that’s too much trouble for the drifting will. but if opportunity puts anything alive in their path, they’ll kill it, for the idle sport of it. to care about anything is a threat to their slothful passivity, so carelessness becomes the only plan you can see in their liquid will. if you encounter a flower bed, trample it. it’s the casualness of their fate that’s so discouraging. you give people things, and they smilingly accept what you give them and smash it with their feet before your eyes. (davenport)

in the end, it is only whole-heartedness that will save us.